Dear Christian friends,
I don’t know why some of you think sexual jokes and gestures are okay. You say you believe in marriage. You say you believe in waiting. You say you have regrets when you don’t. And yet you manage to tell all the dirtiest inside jokes, approach the edge as close as you can get, and call it tolerable because you’re a Christian and you can live above giving in to your physical desires.
From a discouraged and concerned friend: Stop giving in to your mental desires. Stop making your best friends laugh at what they should value and not consider a cheap joke. Stop letting society impact your minds and start letting Christ renew it.
Realize that your body isn’t the only part of you that needs protecting. Your hearts and minds are far more susceptible, and you’re letting them get away with sick stuff. Sometimes just to yourself, and sometimes when you’re with those you know you can be totally open with.
The point is this: there are people around you trying to live like Christ, and they let you into their lives as someone they can identify with and care about. But sometimes you look like the farthest thing from Christ and the closest thing to a modern Miley Cyrus concert. It’s discouraging and upsetting. And I truly believe that you have no idea how much you’re pulling down the people around you. If you did, you might be living a little differently.
From a fellow young person, I understand the allure of sexuality and the desires that go along with that. I totally get it! And I fail. Oh, do I fail. It’s easy for me to laugh at a dirty joke or obscene gesture. Society makes that attractive and funny, and I’ve been part of society long enough for my sinful flesh to take over and allow that into my mind once in awhile. And I’m horribly ashamed of that every time I look back and realize what I was doing.
Maybe it’s a maturity thing. Maybe it’s a security thing. Or maybe it’s none of that.
Whatever it is, it’s noticed and upsetting.
I’m not writing this to spread the hate and reprimand those of you who identify with this post. This is coming from a woman who is trying to please the Lord with her entire being, and is finding herself surrounded by those who find that challenging when they spend time together. And the last thing this girl wants to do is give up time with those people in her life that are so special to her. So it is my prayer that we will all take a moment to stop dead in our tracks, to be completely honest with ourselves about what we allow into our minds, and truly seek to have our minds renewed by the purity of the Lord’s love and guidance. And we need to learn how to do that together.
Colossians 3:5-10 – Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
Galatians 5:16-26 – [This] I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
James 1:26 – If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion [is] vain.
Proverbs 11:3 – The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them.
Romans 12:2 – And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Philippians 4:8 – Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things [are] honest, whatsoever things [are] just, whatsoever things [are] pure, whatsoever things [are] lovely, whatsoever things [are] of good report; if [there be] any virtue, and if [there be] any praise, think on these things.